Here we are around Susan’s table with Ian on the phone. Heather is wearing the duck hat, reserved for those who need to “quack” about a concern they have at the moment. I’m wearing the “facilitator’s hat.” Ian’s in the grey box with the light.
Tonight’s conversation was affirming, motivating, and fulfilling. While there’s no way to capture it - especially not while on east coast time - there were some wonderful quotes and concepts that came out of our three and a half hour long conversation.
* “This is about celebrating the power of conversation to change the world.”
* “We want to increase the level of quality conversation about every divide in every community so that democracy can flourish.”
* “A breakdown in conversation is a breakdown in citizenship, which implicates a crisis in democracy and our ability to achieve peace, happiness, and safety.”
* “If people can’t talk to people about what matters most will we never get to the future we want.”
* “What’s the minimal structure that will allow friends, neighbors, and strangers to get together to get small talk to big talk?”
* “This is about the Declaration of Independence. You know, ‘life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness’ and ‘people are created equal’ - conversation is the great equalizer.”
* “Communication is not just repeating the same message over and over.”
* “We want to increase the level of conversational literacy.”
* “People are yearning for three big things: civil discourse, a chance to be heard; social capital, a sense of belonging; and citizenship, a chance to meaningfully participate in the decisions that impact our daily lives.”
* “This is about a movement.”
On the ground in Seattle! I wasn’t sure we were going to make it with all the turbulence, but here I am. Heather’s train is going to be an hour late, so I figured I’d take the time to figure out the bus system rather than splurge on the taxi. Taxi = $32+tip to train station. Bus = $2(no tip). Nice.
Anyway, on the bus I must have looked like I wasn’t from around here because the man next to me asked if I was. He was a small, friendly guy, thick accent, maybe from Egypt. I told him I’d only be around for two days for a meeting. He asked what I do and I explained I work for myself but am meeting a group to plan a week of worldwide conversations. Ha!
Interest peaked, he asked, “About what?” I said each conversation might have its own topic. “Will they be mediated?” Not really, but I’m meeting some friends who came up with a process with which to have the conversations so everyone has a chance to participate and listen.
“You must have a topic! How can you have a conversation without know the topic? Someone might talk about religion. Or someone might talk about politics.” Yep. For Conversation Week, each person who hosts a conversation can choose a topic of their choice; however it can be expected that the first topic leads into others due to the nature of the Conversation Cafe process.. We will have a list of 100 or so possibilities, but we all might have a different topic we would like to talk about.
Then I told him about the group I started, OrangeBand. Since I’m traveling, I had a couple bags with OrangeBands on them and said they can be used as conversation starters about any issue we think is important to talk about. I gave him a little flyer, he took a band, and we would likely still be in good conversation if the bus wasn’t already at the train station!
What a perfect example of how Conversation Week is really about creating a culture of conversation.
